Friends Never Steer

Posted December 20, 2010 By admin

Friends Never Steer

Say NO To LJBF (Let’s Just Be Friends) How to Get out of the Friend Zone. The Best LJBF Destroyer

How to avoid the LJBF (“Let’s Just Be Friends”) statement? How to get out of the Friend Zone?
Use the HmS Method. The best (PUA) LJBF Destroyer thought out by NO-LJBF.com for you.

NOTE: This first part (contrary to the second which is a longer and more detailed one) doesn’t describe an attraction method/routine, nor a way to avoid rejection in general.
This is a method to avoid getting LJBF’d, SPECIFICALLY.
Nothing will replace attraction, how to create it.

So, in the second part, we’ll focus and expand more on the PUA routine to create attraction and how to get you out of the friend zone.

There’s an easy way to avoid or escape the Friend Zone, to stay in or enter the ‘potential lover’ category.

And with this really simple idea, she doesn’t have her say, at all.
You’ll never depend on HER (their) choice again. YOU will choose when and if it doesn’t bother you to be considered as a friend. You can always decide to play the seduction card later or if you want to be seen as a potential lover (not necessarily as a boyfriend) right from the start (better solution).

The other advantage of this method is that you can use it at any moment, even if she told you she wanted to just be friends already.
But to steer clear of confusion and/or be seen as a bit weak not having expressed your ideas sooner. You should make this statement as soon as you decide to hit on her.

So, you want to know what is it? It’s simple.
You just have to make her understand, clearly and without any ambiguity, that you don’t believe TRUE man-woman friendship to be possible.

That’s the « When Harry meets Sally » Method. (The HmS Method) For those who don’t know the movie, it was starring Billy Crystal (Harry) and Meg Ryan (Sally). The main topic was men-women relationships including, of course, the (im)possibility (argued by Billy Crystal) of true friendship between members of opposite sex.

It’s really an indirect and effortless way to tell her you don’t wish to be her friend… So, guess what, she won’t see you as one. She won’t be able to use it as an excuse to turn you down either.

If you’re already in a situation where the girl expressed her preference for you to just be friends and only that, you can always decide to tell that it doesn’t work for you anymore. The time constraint is important because you don’t want her to think that you have been lying (implicitly or not) to her by agreeing to be friends when, in fact, you were physically attracted since day one.
You can say that you thought it was a good thing or that you tried but now it doesn’t seem right. And then you can further explain it by introducing the HmS concept. You saw the film recently or you read an article on the subject… And it got you thinking.

As I said it’s clearly trickier but still a good way to (try to) express your true feelings for the first time. You have nothing to lose. Better to end a one-way (phony, imposed, unhealthy) friendship than continually being frustrated.
You may believe that seeing her as a friend is better than nothing… But really, think about it, you’ll be better off when you’ll face reality and start to open yourself to the world (plenty of nice beautiful girls out there)… Instead of being locked up in a depressing and windowless box.

So, now, what you need to do is to put your money where your mouth is and… break contact with her. I mean it. Completely remove her out of your life (for a while at least, something like a month.)
Don’t worry, you’ll make your come back. We keep in mind that the goal is to convert this ‘friendship’ into an affair or real relationship. But it will be on YOUR terms and you will have shown you’re willing to walk away.
Even better (for the reasons we mentioned above) if you’re actually thinking it, not only acting as if…

But DON’T BE BITTER OR ANGRY, this is very important. Tell her what you have to say (you understand that she doesn’t seem to see you that way but it doesn’t work for you anymore. That kind of thing.) and don’t wait for an answer, just go..

Don’t try to convince her (rationally) to be your girlfriend or to have a romantic relationship. Women don’t work that way. Logic will never attract a girl. But emotions, feelings will.

If she tries to call you, tell her that you’re busy and/or keep the conversation short. Again no anger nor frustration. Just show her everything’s fine for you. In fact, you feel even better. If you see her, adopt the same mindset/attitude. Smile but don’t speak long.

She’ll begin to realize that you have other interests in your life than her. She may even be missing you or get frustrated (that’s good). She will ask you questions like « Where were you? », « What did you do? ». No need to answer all her questions. Be a bit vague, let her imagination do the job for you. Above all: DON’T reassure her by saying things like: « Oh, it‘s nothing. I was with John. » Or: « Don‘t be worried you‘ll always be first for me » ….

You can also play on the jealous side. Go and see other girls, even if you don’t make out with them. Better if you do. If so, don’t do it just in front of her, be subtle. If you know she’ll be somewhere, be with or kiss your new ‘girlfriend’ 50, 100 yards from her… And don’t notice her presence, don’t speak about it afterwards. Let her bring up the subject… When speaking about this (new) girl, be positive, describe her in a good light (Don’t need to make up stuff or to try too much).

If she doesn’t get jealous or more interested in you, at least you know were you stand now. No need for you to loose your time and emotions on her.

The main point is STOP being always there for her. Again, better to be a bit sad for a while… but having a life… Than being sad and being masochistic as well. By constantly being there for her, you ARE with her and hear her… Always reminding you how much you’d like more. It’s seriously unhealthy. You don’t want her to be(come) your «ONE-ITIS» (See our PUA Dictionary for definition.)

So, just stop. And maybe you’ll like what you find and you’ll indeed begin to think less about her, meet other girls. You can even end up being pursued by HER.

But always remember, the three most important words a guy who is/was ‘LJBFed’ forget are:
Attraction, attraction, attraction. Comfort is only half of seduction.

Summary:

Have a life. Stop giving her only comfort… Meet new/other girls.
That’s the best way to don’t come across as needy… Because you aren’t! You have other girls gravitating around you. This girl could be cool to make out with but she isn’t the only one!

From now on, with the girl you meet and are attracted to, you need to be more playful, teasing (e.g. cocky-funny instead of simply nice). Use more kino: Touch them more (light touches, don’t make them fell uncomfortable)… And show them you don’t need them.

Did you like this article?
Next (in part2) you’ll learn how to use it the HmS method as an opener, a routine to create attraction or as a much deeper topic (This simple concept really is a gold mine). It also gives you material like PUA routines on how to use it efficiently.

So, come visit our website (scroll down a bit further than the middle page) and ask for the full version (Part 1+2, pdf document) of this article for free.

About the Author

NO-LJBF.com (Let’s NOT Just Be Friends) is the First PUA (PickUp Artist. See our “PUA Dictionary”) website allowing you to avoid LJBF and showing you how to get out of the Friend Zone. Learn innovative and efficient PUA routines, tips, techniques and PUA methods to teach you how to get the girl you want by being a successful seducer, not just a friend.…

Would you be friends with a gentleman?

I do consider myself one, but so do the people who know me, I try to be as kind, honest, gentle, and considerate as I can to others, I do not like to argue or raise my voice, I do not have a violent bone in my body, I never get mad or upset, not unless someone’s hurting someone I care for or children. Hmmm… but I don’t seem to know all that many people, I thinks it’s because people can’t believe I’m the way I am or they think I’m putting on some kind of show… or maybe because I’m very shy and have a hard time meeting people, ah, who knows. If you knew someone like that would you want to be their friend or steer clear, because you wouldn’t believe it.
If you want the proof about Draconicsage, ask him why he messaged a lady, and after she told him to leave her alone, he showed up at her house, and she never gave him her address, she lives with her mom. This sounds like the actions of an internet stalker and she will confirm that.

I would love to be your friend!

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